Rediscovering Yourself: A Journey to Self-Love and Personal Growth After Breakup

Several negative emotions, such as anger, sadness, depression, anxiety, shame, and guilt, are believed to be felt by individuals experiencing a breakup. Some even face a state of despair and, in extreme cases, could face the risk of suicide. For example, in 2020, a female student committed suicide after experiencing a breakup in Bali. Furthermore, in 2019, a 20-year-old young man from Pekalongan committed suicide by hanging himself and recording the incident on his cellphone. He did this because he was depressed after a breakup (Anwar, 2019).

The results of research conducted by McCullough (1998) show that feelings of breakup can motivate individuals to avoid contact with their former partners and encourage feelings of revenge. When experiencing a breakup, individuals tend to seek ways to protect themselves from the potential pain and emotional stress that may arise from interacting with a former partner. The desire for revenge may arise in response to a sense of disappointment, and individuals may feel the need to reassert their control or self-worth following a breakup.

Understanding these emotional dynamics can provide insights into the ways in which individuals can manage post-breakup feelings and respond more healthily.  These events have provided tangible evidence of the extent to which a breakup impacts a person's mental health. The importance of applying self-love and personal growth after a breakup can certainly rule out negativity like the cases that have occurred.  Self-love is not a static state, but rather a dynamic appreciation of self that develops through actions that support physical, psychological, and spiritual growth. According to Khoshaba (2012) and Henschke and Sedlemeier (2021), self-love is not only a positive attitude towards oneself, but also an ability that can be learned and maintained for life. Individuals who practice self-love tend to have high self-awareness, can accept their strengths and weaknesses, and are willing to actively care for themselves and establish healthy relationships. In the context of society, the application of self-love is considered important, especially for adolescents, to help them develop self-understanding, increase self-compassion, strengthen self-confidence, and avoid risky behaviors. The application of self-love is expected to contribute positively to psychological well-being and healthy behaviors.

In conclusion, research on self-love and personal growth following a breakup highlights the importance of understanding and caring for the self in the face of significant emotional change. The results show that self-love, as a dynamic appreciation of oneself, plays a key role in supporting personal growth after a breakup. The ability to accept and deal with oneself, both strengths and weaknesses, becomes a key foundation for positive self-development. This process allows individuals to focus on physical, psychological, and spiritual growth, leading to the formation of healthier relationships and a deeper understanding of oneself.

 In the context of a breakup, self-love can be an important tool to help individuals, particularly adolescents, cope with emotional pain, increase self-confidence, and avoid harmful behaviors. The (Kurnia, Khumas, & Firdaus, 2023) a role of self-love provides space for the person to continue to improve themselves and be able to get over the sadness that occurs after a breakup. Therefore, understanding and applying self-love is a meaningful step in supporting the journey of personal growth after a breakup.

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