Authors: Haura Nuraziza 1, Syakira Zahra Dasylva2, Tatu Zakiyatun Nufus3
Psychology faculty of UIN Syarif Hidayatullah Jakarta, Indonesia
Abstract
Human beings are innately social creatures, relying on social interaction and connection with other to form relationships, communities, and societies. These relationships are expected to bring happiness and fulfill their need for affection, especially from people they consider special. However, not all relationships are necessarily positive or beneficial, as the very social nature thet allows humans to come together can also lead to conflicts, prejudices, and divisions. This such relationships are classified as "toxic relationships". Toxic relationships are defined by one partner exerting excessive control over thei significant other's life, even when it conflicts with their own desires. In such cases, the partner who displays toxic behaviours can be regraded as a red flag. This research method uses a qualitative method with a description analysis approach to describe in relations between red flag and toxic relationship. This approach focuses on collecting information by stufying scientific related to the title being researched. Red flags in toxic relationships can significantly harm a partner's well-being and mental health. Such relationships often feature emotional, verbal, or physical abuse patterns that may give rise to fear, anxiety, and low self-esteem. Breaking free from a toxic relationships is also an act of self-care aimed at fullfilling one's right to happiness. Such as recognized early signs of toxic relationship and acknowledge its unhealty nature.
Key words: Toxic relationship, Red flag
Introduction
      As the renowned Greek Philosopher Aristotle once declared, "Even a God finds it hard to love and be wise at the same time." This statement certainly rings true. Though we may believe ourselves to be too intelligent to let our emotions govern our thoughts, many of us allow our feelings to override our rational judgment, particularly in matters pertaining to our romantic relationships. Human beings are innately social creatures, relying on social interaction and connection with others to form relationships, communities, and societies. These relationships are expected to bring happiness and fulfill their need for affection, especially from people they consider special. Also to help shape our identities and contribute to the advancement of our species.
However, not all relationships are necessarily positive or beneficial, as the very social nature that allows humans to come together can also lead to conflicts, prejudices and divisions. This such relationships are classified as "toxic relationships". Toxic relationships are defined by one partner exerting excessive control over their significant other's life, even when it conflicts with their own desires. In such cases, the partner who displays toxic behavior can be regarded as a red flag.
Red flags are indicators of potential problems or characteristics that could impede a relationship. These can range from major dealbreakers to subtler signals that something may be awry. Their purpose is to caution individuals that the person they are with may not be a suitable match. Signs of red flag behavior should not be ignored or trivialized. Recognizing warning signs is crucial for taking proactive measures to safeguard oneself and others. It is vital to establish and enforce clear boundaries if someone exhibits such behaviors. This article will examine frequent red flag behaviors that play a role in creating toxic relationships and increase readers awareness of toxic relationships, their warning signs, and offer strategies for exiting these kind of relationships.
Literature ReviewÂ
- Toxic Relationship
- Definition
- Toxic refers to something that is poisonous or harmful. According to Dan Brennan, MD, toxic is negative behaviour that disappointing. When referring to relationships, a toxic relationships is one that is detrimental and damaging to one or both parties involved.
- Based on Oxford Dictionary, interpersonal relationships refer to the manner in which two individuals, groups, or nations interact or transact with each other.
- With both of these definitions, a toxic relationship is one that seeks to mentally degrade the opponent through various forms of attacking, such as lowering their self-esteem and dignity, leadong them to feel that they have been harmed by the other person (Glass, 1995).
- Characteristic
- The signs of toxic relationship include anger, frustation, unhappines, and annoyance that are targeted towards the other partner. A bad relationship occurs when one partner continually drains the other mentally, emotionally, psychologically, or spiritually. Additionally, a partner who lacks direction, is lazy, unmotivated, and unproductive can lead to a toxic relationship, while the other partner seemingly strives to push them forward withput a clear vision (Sayed, 2015).
- Type
Type of toxic relationships can entail emotional abuse and physical abuse. Emotional abuse involves instance of diatribes, cursing, intimidation, threats, peer pressure, and anger, which can lead to the victim experiencing hurt, depression, anger, and a sense of confinement. The victim may also develop feelings of inferiority if the abuse persists, as noted by Hadi (El-Hakim, 2014). Meanwhile, according to Luhulima (2000), physical abuse is characterized as violence that results in visible scars or marks on the victim's body.
- Factor
