How Does An Introvert Start a Relationship

Fadly HA, Fauziah AF, Hanifah SM, I Azkya.

Student majoring in Arabic Language and Literature, Faculty of Adab and Humanities, State Islamic University Sunan Gunung Djati, Bandung, Indonesia. Desember, 16 2022.

Introvert and extrovert may be familiar terms nowadays. The two words are opposite personalities, where an extrovert is a personality who enjoys socializing and interacting with other people. Meanwhile, people with introverted personalities prefer spending time alone.

Introverts are known as people who are shy, quiet, ignorant, arrogant, don't want to get along, etc. But actually, introverts are not what you think they are; they are just thinking about what they are saying before they say it to you. This personality prefers to interact with one person or two people, compared to a group of people; maybe if they are in a group of people, introverts will feel uncomfortable and it will drain their energy.

They will have more potential if they are in their environment or indoors, such as reading or writing, compared to doing activities outside there. Introvert personalities are also known as people who are serious at work; they can carry out their activities or work by themselves without the help of others, which is different from extroverts, who will find it easier if their work is assisted by other people or discussed.

Even so, introverts can actually be very caring people; they can even become loyal listeners.

Why is starting a relationship important for an introvert?

As we know, it is very difficult for an introvert to get along in a large group; more precisely, it is difficult to enjoy gathering and having fun chatting in one room where there are many people in the room, even though he knows these people. However, the introvert is still hesitant to begin and attract the attention of others in his chats. why? because introverts worry too much about saying the right word for conversation in that situation, are too afraid if what they are talking about is wrong, are afraid of receiving other people's feedback, and are afraid of not being able to accept it if other people don't think or agree with them. It is those fears that have been rooted in the introverted mindset—events that actually may not necessarily happen—that, by thinking like that for a long time, can become embedded in the brain, and we think that things will happen or will definitely happen. Even though some introverts don't accept the fact that other people's judgments of us are none of our business, it's not up to us to decide. Everyone has a different way of thinking, and our right is to say what we think regardless of what other people think. It could be that our opinion can help other people solve a problem, but because we are too selfish and think too negatively, that will not happen. And by writing this article, we, who are also introverts, want to help those of you who are currently still confused, take it for granted, or look down on introverts. We are great; we just need to be more extreme than usual to make people around us realize how great the potential is in us. not to be someone else, but we are trying not to stay put but to move forward to open up our talents that have been hidden so far. and also make introverts aware that having lots of friends and broad relationships is very pleasant, will ease our path in future careers, and will be useful if we are far from family. even though it doesn't look like it at the moment, but rest assured it will happen. Try to think positively from now on, slowly, and try to open up to your friends, because that way other people will feel valued and that you think of them as good friends.

Based on the book Quiet Impact: It Doesn't Matter to Be an Introvert by Sylivia Loehken, here we will summarize as briefly as possible the important points for an introvert to start a relationship with other people.

1. Step out of your comfort zone

As we all know, communicating with new people is a difficult decision for a quiet person.Why is it important? Because there must be times when unexpected events occur.We are also required to get out of our comfort zone, not to be someone else but to become a better version of ourselves.

2. Build confidence 

This point has actually been discussed a lot in various ways, but here we want to focus on an introvert. Simply put, if you don't feel confident speaking, it means you doubt your own abilities. when, in fact, you are much more than what you show. It also affects the judgment of the interlocutor. They may think less well of you. In the book Quiet Impact, there are several methods for building self-confidence, one of which is keeping a diary full of success stories. The goal is for you to be driven and motivated to be more confident.

3. Pay full attention to the person in front of you.

When you already have a friend who usually chats in small talk or small talk slowly, you can pay attention when he talks that way. He feels comfortable with you doing this because, indirectly, you empathize with him and seem to try to understand what he is experiencing.

4. Be a good listener Make your achievements known to others.

A good listener? Isn't this not a foreign thing for introverts? Actually, why is it necessary to be a good listener? We can see the effect on the interlocutor. If the other person feels heard, they will think that we have empathy, and they will want to chat with us again.

5. Make your achievements known to others.

The purpose is for them to see our talent and be curious about what an introvert who is usually quiet and seems to have no advantage in any field can do. Just show it, because with forgiveness we can do something valuable.

6. Introduce people you know to each other

Getting to know each other indirectly can expand the relationship. It is not difficult, right? Because that way, your relationship with other people will improve, and you can learn the differences between each character that you can use as a reference for how to be better at communicating.

7. Ask your acquaintances to introduce you to their friends

Indirectly, this method is also useful because the more people who know about us, the more people who want to get acquainted and make friends, even if it's just for necessities at first, but the best we can interact with someone, the stronger the sense of friendship.

8. Unofficial exchange of information

Maybe this is a difficult thing for introverts to do. But we can start with small things, like sending messages by just asking how you are; or if you meet in person, say hello and make small talk until you feel comfortable and can enjoy it.

9. Build relationships in your own way

Of course, introverts always have their own uniqueness. Because of that, he can look different, and that can attract the attention of others. like they want to know more about us and our unique personality. We can use this opportunity to add to relationships and expand them as well. remember, don't hesitate to start, we have great potential that no one else has.

The conclusion from what has been discussed above is that an introvert can start relationships with other people without having to be limited by other people's views of introverts. We also, as introverts, must have the courage to express our opinion about something regardless of other people's assessment of what we say. Don't let other people's judgments become an obstacle for us to move forward to achieve success. Also, remember: don't be too against your own thinking; set it free; let your mind go as far as it should, and that too must be controlled if you are already at that stage. and assume that starting a relationship does not need to use rules, and since there are no rules, enjoy what has been scaring you. Keep your spirit up and keep thinking positively so that it takes root in your brain. Throw away the thoughts that have been holding you back. I hope what has been written can be useful and help you introverts feel proud of yourselves.

That's all we can say. We hope that this article helps and that anyone who reads it feels happy and apologizes if there are mistakes. Please provide criticism and suggestions to help us improve this article in the future.

Warm greetings from us who believe that introverts are great. We are unique, and our silence is meaningful. be the best possible version of yourself. Don't forget to be grateful and appreciate your efforts so far because results come after a long journey and struggle.

Blessed are the great people:')

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