How to Take Control of Your Life

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Have you ever feel that everything just went out of control. Things happened way far than you anticipated. Your plans ruined, and you can't just find the right action to put everything back together. Don't worry, everyone feels that way for once in a while. But if it's always happen to you, then the bad news is that you probably have no control over your own life.

In this article, I would like to discuss the reason why some people are just helpless and unable to do anything to make a change. While some others are thriving and have the power to do whatever they want. This might hurt your pride and self conscious a little bit, but you have to bear it if you want to open a new path in your life. The path where you have full control of your life. So, are you ready? Open up the door in your mind or else you will just wasting your time and be back stuck in your miserable life. Here's 3 ultimate way of taking over your life. 

1. Stop, REALLY STOP blaming other people or external circumstances for your failure.

The reason why some people are just have no control over their life is because they keep blaming for whatever bad things that happen in their life to someone else or to some external circumstances. This is bad, really bad. Let's discover why. 

When you start blaming other for something wrong in your life, you just admit that you don't have control to prevent that from happening. Now think carefully. What if you tell that person to be more careful or pick someone else with the right skill set to do the right job, the result might differ. Take the full damn responsibility to admit that you have the STRENGTH, the POWER to make a DIFFERENCE. 

I'm not saying that you have to blame everything to yourself, but yes. Most of the mistake and failure that happens in our life is based on our decision. If you believe in god, the almighty might really take control of the fate you have. But god is also the all fair, that's why he left the choice of success for you to take. And fate is decided after you make the effort, not predetermined. Now, if you don't believe in god then that would be more simple. Everything that happened has nothing to do with any superstitious factor, it's just you and your ability to handle situation yourself. 

So what are you waiting for? Stop blaming others and start taking the responsibility to take over your life. 

2. Have integrity, be someone that you can trust

If you can't trust yourself, then how could anyone trust you. After you finish dealing with your habit of blaming others and be a responsible person, now you have to be someone with integrity. So, what is integrity in this context? Let's see the explanation.

For one, you may wonder what makes you believe and trust your friend Steve so much. Well, he's dependable. When we ask a favor and he said he'll help you, then he will definitely do it. When he says something, it's true and you can imagine that he can do that. Like climbing the Everest last summer, or being runner up in the local cooking contest. Steve is awesome, because whatever he says will happen, it happened. 

Now back at you. Can you relate yourself towards that kind character? If no, then it's obvious why you failed all the times. You don't have the integrity. Be a person who can stick to what he says. If you can't make things happen when you say you can, then you have no integrity. If you don't want to do it then don't say it. And when you say you will do it, then be prepared to do whatever it takes to make it happen.

That powerful personality is your integrity, stick to what you have said to start believing in yourself. 

3. Be grateful, think about the children in Africa you ungrateful piece of shirt

Seriously though, if you can't even appreciate what you already have right now, how could you possibly know what you can actually control. The third step for you to take after you already be a responsible person with integrity is to humbly accept the situation you are in. By admitting all the grace you have right now, you will learn to value your life more. Being grateful is such an amazing way for you to start taking control from what you already have. Let me tell you about it further.

Just call this girl Anna. She's been living a generous life for over twenty years now. Never she had one day with worries about what to have for dinner or her school fund to Harvard. And she's smart, unlike her friends that waste their parents money to buy fancy stuff just to show other people how trendy they are, Anna use her money to help others and mostly save it for her future. She always use the money that her parent gave her wisely. Because she's being grateful to what she have at the moment, she have full control over her emotion towards money and wealth. And even after her parents divorced she keep feeling grateful and appreciate what she have. Never once Anna feeling sad or helpless because of that attitude. In this situation we can see that wealth or life asset have nothing to do with self control as long as someone is being grateful.

The opposite thing will happen to ungrateful people. I have seen people whining over their luxury car. Even though he has wealth, he doesn't have control over his world. And slowly people like this will lose one thing after the other because of the ungrateful attitude. When you can't appreciate things properly, you will waste it, simply says: no control over your life.

Be grateful to start taking control of all the grace that you already have.

 
Conclusion

Those three are the most important things that I realized play a big role in most of the people life. Always remember that you live in society where you are whether being controlled or taking control. Be the one who have the power to decide one's own destiny over other influence. I hope you will find answer for problems that happened in your life. Stop looking to the outside to blame, get a mirror and start reflecting yourself. Be the best person you really are. It's time to take control of your live. 

I hope this is relate-able and could help all the reader to move towards glorious life. If you like what you read, please add score and share it to someone that might need some reading. Thank you :)

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