How to Take Control of Your Life

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Have you ever feel that everything just went out of control. Things happened way far than you anticipated. Your plans ruined, and you can't just find the right action to put everything back together. Don't worry, everyone feels that way for once in a while. But if it's always happen to you, then the bad news is that you probably have no control over your own life.

In this article, I would like to discuss the reason why some people are just helpless and unable to do anything to make a change. While some others are thriving and have the power to do whatever they want. This might hurt your pride and self conscious a little bit, but you have to bear it if you want to open a new path in your life. The path where you have full control of your life. So, are you ready? Open up the door in your mind or else you will just wasting your time and be back stuck in your miserable life. Here's 3 ultimate way of taking over your life. 

1. Stop, REALLY STOP blaming other people or external circumstances for your failure.

The reason why some people are just have no control over their life is because they keep blaming for whatever bad things that happen in their life to someone else or to some external circumstances. This is bad, really bad. Let's discover why. 

When you start blaming other for something wrong in your life, you just admit that you don't have control to prevent that from happening. Now think carefully. What if you tell that person to be more careful or pick someone else with the right skill set to do the right job, the result might differ. Take the full damn responsibility to admit that you have the STRENGTH, the POWER to make a DIFFERENCE. 

I'm not saying that you have to blame everything to yourself, but yes. Most of the mistake and failure that happens in our life is based on our decision. If you believe in god, the almighty might really take control of the fate you have. But god is also the all fair, that's why he left the choice of success for you to take. And fate is decided after you make the effort, not predetermined. Now, if you don't believe in god then that would be more simple. Everything that happened has nothing to do with any superstitious factor, it's just you and your ability to handle situation yourself. 

So what are you waiting for? Stop blaming others and start taking the responsibility to take over your life. 

2. Have integrity, be someone that you can trust

If you can't trust yourself, then how could anyone trust you. After you finish dealing with your habit of blaming others and be a responsible person, now you have to be someone with integrity. So, what is integrity in this context? Let's see the explanation.

For one, you may wonder what makes you believe and trust your friend Steve so much. Well, he's dependable. When we ask a favor and he said he'll help you, then he will definitely do it. When he says something, it's true and you can imagine that he can do that. Like climbing the Everest last summer, or being runner up in the local cooking contest. Steve is awesome, because whatever he says will happen, it happened.