Friend is..

Two years ago, this incident was actually quite brief. We were friends at the time, and I wasn't really a very sociable person, but I wasn't a picky eater either. The meeting was also very short, only a few hours we met but we have strong chemistry. I rarely admit things like that, I think making friends is fun, well because I was fooled too often and made fun of when I was in school, so I think we are very compatible. However, what is happening right now states with absolute certainty, that making friends is a bad thing. Especially for my personal life.

Yes, I say it's bad, but to myself. I shouldn't have friends, I shouldn't believe the crazy opinions of fans thinking we're good friends. It's the craziest thing in my life when my best friend doesn't think so. I'm two years older than her and I consider myself like her older sister, which I shouldn't have done. We talked about a lot of things, including very personal things -hers- while I, the introvert, just told an absurd story that I experienced in the last two years. Especially love. I thought it was a very facial thing because we were teenagers at the time, but as each day, the closer we got, I realized, if we didn't need to share such details, every day.

She says it's a dream which she couldn't achieve, she says family matters that shouldn't be exposed, she says how bad her family is, she also says things she shouldn't say about her parents. It hurts me, really, no matter how bad what happened between you and your family, no one should know. But she did and it made me think, there's something wrong with this friend of mine. Every time she told stories, she always said bad things about her family, we had only known her for 1 year and she started to be rude.

She always uses commands and harsh words that he shouldn't use when talking to older people, but she calls me that. At that time I thought, we are friends and that's a natural thing. But then, the second thing happened. She visited my house for the first time, I couldn't possibly kick her out because her house was quite far away and I considered her my friend. We talked about our favorite idols, maybe that's the favorite part as long as I've known her.

"Please take me to this address." The place she was going to was not far from my house, it took her half an hour to get there. At that time we arrived at half-past five in the afternoon, we stopped five meters from the house she wanted to visit, this is the part I don't understand, we waited until it got dark and she asked me to keep calling her bf to pick us up. His house is only five meters away! When her boyfriend came to pick us up with his friend, she said "He forced me to come here."

Inside I cursed, but I still remember, we are friends. "When did I ask you to?" But I keep saying in my head, that's what actually happened, I never forced her to visit that place, it was reversed! We finally arrived at her boyfriend's house at half-past six in the afternoon. I've been sitting on the grass for over an hour just for such a nuisance, but then again I'm not complaining. That's my stupidity.

At seven o'clock Mom started calling me and I started to feel uncomfortable with the condition, I whispered softly beside her ear, "let's go home, it's getting late." But she didn't listen and continued her courtship. What's the point of me there?! Ah, right, I'm the driver who drove her.

At half-past eight, I asked her to go again, but again she ignored me and continued her activity, while my mother kept calling and asking me to come home. It was really the first time I went out of the house at night, because my father was quite strict and forbade all his children to come home late, while the clock was running and the time was getting late. Honestly, at that time I started to panic because I was afraid of being scolded by my father. At eight-fifteen I decided to go home, I said, "if you want to stay I'm fine, but I have to go now." I said goodbye after that, I went home and left her at her boyfriend's house. I know this is unethical, moreover, it was also their first meeting, and staying at the man's house is not natural.

The next day, when I woke up and opened my phone to check my class schedule, she texted me at eight, ten minutes before I woke up. I didn't open it right away, because my lectures were more important. I saw what my classmates had been talking about all night, then left my phone to wash my face. After washing my face and turning on the laptop, I took my phone again to connect WhatsApp to the WhatsApp web. After that, I just opened the message she sent to me.

She asked me to take the sanitary pads to the place yesterday I dropped her off, this is crazy!! I mean, there's a shop there and she can buy her own pads, but she's asking me to take them there?! The distance is half an hour!! I'm starting to dislike the way she talks.

I lied then, I did as she did before, lied. I said that day I had to go to the dentist, not really a lie, but for some reason, I canceled the appointment. I was at home all day, but I told her I was going to see the dentist to treat my cavities. Until ten o'clock at night she still forced me to come there and pick her up, ten o'clock at night?! I was busy with my duties and she kept on bossing me around like a boss. She called me at that time.

"Please pick me up, yesterday I promised to stay at your house." What about this? I'm really starting to hate it.

"No, I'm still at the dentist." At that time I sat in front of my house and made it seem as if I was on the side of the road. At that time I had just finished the task the lecturer gave, college students would understand what I was going through, during a pandemic like this, doing the task was difficult, especially the lecturer did not send the module separately, so I had to search for material on google and read it carefully. "Ask your boyfriend to drive you here." That's the best suggestion, in my opinion, they're dating and it's only natural for a man to take his girlfriend home.

"No, poor him, he's been with me all night and rubbed my head until morning."

Pity, she said?! Really, this is so absurd that she said that!! I'm a girl, I'm not even 23 years old, and I haven't got my bachelor's degree yet!! Moreover, the housing I live in is scary; no lights and quiet. And she doesn't feel sorry for me? And my dad won't let me go. "Then stay there and come back to your house tomorrow." I am annoyed!! After that, the call ends.

I held back my anger, until midnight but then I told my sister about it. She asked for my cell phone and started fighting with my friend. In the morning I apologized for my impolite language, but after that, I regretted my actions. Why am I so stupid?!

Three days later, at seven o'clock in the morning I got a message from a foreign number, I answered it without thinking, and it turned out to be my friend's mother. On that day, she told her parents she wanted to play at my house with the excuse of studying and bringing a laptop as a tool, but in fact, she went to sell her laptop without only coming to my house. Extraordinary!!

She arrived at half-past six in the afternoon, by that time the rain had just stopped and she asked me to take her to the convenience store to make a payment for the birthday cake she ordered for her boyfriend who was having a birthday. "You sold your laptop? How much did you get?" I asked after we got back from paying for the cake.

"I'm not selling it, I'm just pawning it." But before I asked that, she told me that she just got paid, and she didn't work.

"How many?"

"Five hundred thousand rupiahs." After she answered that, she took out the money and counted it, and the remaining 150 thousand rupiahs. "Come on, take me to the place yesterday, I'll give you the fare later." It was seven o'clock after we bought the candles.

"I can't, my lectures have started and tomorrow I have a busy schedule." I emphatically refused, my father wouldn't like it either and wouldn't allow me to leave the house.

"Just a moment, after the event is over you can go home." That means she will stay and I will go home alone like three days ago. But I refused it, with a shake of my head, after that I just said.

"No, my father won't allow it, it's too late and I still have a lot of work to do." I turned her down again, but she still kept pushing and I kept my stand.

Finally, she ordered an online motorcycle taxi and left alone, that night I thought everything was over, I mean she wouldn't ask for weird things like she did yesterday, because of a small fight that happened three days ago. But I was wrong, her mother kept calling me and asking how her daughter was through me because she blocked her mother's contact.

She told me to lie and stupidly I did that, I lied to her Mom and said she was with me and we were studying. Even though I don't know what she's doing out there, with her boyfriend and a birthday party that feels ridiculous to me. Why did I say that? Because she sold her laptop just for useless celebration!! She was having fun, whereas I felt like she was being terrorized by her parents.

I called her in the middle of the night, telling her how uncomfortable I was that her parents kept calling me. Honestly, annoyed, but not because of her parents' worries, it's because she didn't give me the full details when she asked me to lie to her parents. I was angry after that, this time it wasn't my sister who typed, I, I did it alone.

I told her how I had felt the past week and she replied to me with strange words, which really pissed me off. "If you feel uncomfortable, just block the number and don't respond to messages!" She again ordered me and cursed me. "Just made it hard!"

"You don't understand how your parents are worried and you're telling me to block the contact?! Are you crazy?!" I'm annoyed, this is really beyond my expectations. "At least you give the word and answer the phone!" But after that, she ignored my message.

At that time, I couldn't think anymore, I was confused about what to do and I had lied too much. In the end, I told my mother what had happened and she wanted to help me solve this problem, she also said, "Parents always know what their child is doing, even when the child is lying, parents also know."

I agree with her suggestion of a small, scenario to expose my lies. It was seven o'clock, my friend's mother called me again and I gave my cell phone to my mother to start the scenario that had been drawn up. "Oh, yes she did come, but after that, she left again, she didn't stay here." The conversation was very long and the conversation didn't just revolve there, like mothers in general, they talked about how children don't understand parents' concerns. And I have to admit that.

Finally, my role started, after the first call my mother answered, I contacted her mother to explain the truth, all the lies I did and the woman was crying across the street. The call took a long time because she kept asking the same thing, I know her concern. Finally, the call ended, at nine o'clock in the evening, and I texted my friend, saying that my mother had been leaking our lies. Several times I called her because she didn't want to go home, as it always happened. Three days ago.

We had a big fight, and she kept blaming me for it. I said all the feelings I held back for a week, to be honest, I'm not a patient person. And finally, I cut off my contact and friendship.