Honestly, it’s very difficult not to get offended by such nasty comments. You’d want to tell them to back off, get a life, and mind their own business – whatever it is. Or keep themselves busy with something else and just leave you be.
If they happen to be single too like you, but often lecture you as if they’re not and have got a much better life than yours, sometimes you feel like telling them off – like this:
“Why don’t you fetch a husband/wife for yourself first? Then maybe, I can let you talk to me like that!”
However, you realise that it’s just not worth it. Whatever you do (or not), people will always have something to say. There’ll always be the opinions of others.
In the end, it’s all about your personal decisions and responsibilities. You don’t owe them any explanation. Everyone needs to acknowledge that moment when ‘caring’ becomes ‘overbearing’ and ‘suffocating’.
Sadly, there’ll always be people who treat ‘weddings’ and ‘getting married’ like a race or a competition. Who’s got it grandest? Who’s tied the knot the quickest?
Who can look happiest with their partner on the outside?
In this society, you’ll simply be viewed as a cynic for having these thoughts.
There’s nothing wrong with weddings and marriages, ever. Just don’t get married out of loneliness. A friend of mine told me: “Marry someone not only because they make you happy, but because you want to spend the rest of your life with them.” For me, marriage is an opportunity given by God so you take care that person you love for the rest of your life – and vice versa. You don’t always get along with each other, though. In fact, sometimes you drive one another crazy.
It’s the commitment that gets you to stay – and faith that it’ll still work out in the end. It’s not easy, but that doesn’t mean it’s impossible.
What if it doesn’t work out? Does that make one a failure? Will one be brave enough to give it another try, no matter how hard it is and how scared they are?