In the other side, Ali Shomali, in his book Knowing Self said that through understanding self, we will get some advantages. First, it’s able for us to identify the abilities and our individual talents. Second, it will be the effective way for healing ourself. Third, it will stimulate our awareness that we are as a God creation and not just seeing ourself as an animal which has some instinctions of basic neediness that must to be satisfied.
So that, from that way, I think knowing and understanding about personality knowledge can help us a lot in career for our future. Because of that, we can handle and solve problem with positive thinking in the way we are.
- Does Personality guarantee someone’s success in life??
I think so, as I said before, that the key of developing self is understanding self, and the key of understanding self is knowing personality knowledge. With this ability, we can know or understand and measure our abundance and destitute. Understanding self can make us have a positive mind and it causes we do act everythings in a positive way too.
Success is a process and the process to be successful person is being someone who has positive thinking. Because to be that person is not as easy as reversing your bottom hand or reversing a paper. So that, someone who has positive thinking is definitely understood themselves. They can solve problem without give up reasons and keep focusing on their vision. They always doing affirmations, practicing or training their abundance, and they believe that they are special not just for themselves but also for people around them.
So, how personality guarantee someone’s life is just by applicating or practicing that theory in our daily life, and it depends on ourself.
- My own problem dealing with personality
When I was a young girl, I lived with my parents in my grandmother’s house. In the first sight, my life is very wonderful. But actually in the other side, my life is very uncomfortable and unhappy at all. I was growing became a beautiful and smart girl, but I didn’t have friends. So I always walk alone and do anything by myself. It’s alike no ones life in this world. I always covered myself from people around me. I was so sad and regretful with my condition but that time I thought nothing I can do. That’s all is because my parents are always angry with me and very compulsive in the way how they overprotect me.
In many years, since I sat in elementary school until senior high school in third grade, I didn’t know myself. I just keep silence and I didn’t be a talkative person. I was confused when I was faced on the questions: “What’s your dream of life? What’s your vision? Or what’s your plan to do after you graduated from school?” because I don’t understand and I don’t know what kind of sentences for answering that questions. My friend said those all are very simple questions, but for me, it’s like a condition when you almost burned on the kitchen while you were trapped into. You cannot go anywhere. You need someone to help you out from that situation.
- How do I pope/deal with that problem??
There’s a wise word like “The most difficult phase of your life is not when no ones understand you but when you don’t understand yourself”. The wise word always make me remember that I’ve lost myself. I don’t know what I want to do, what’s my vision of life, and I don’t know how to solve this problem quickly. But fortunately, my friend helped me to go out from that phase. My friend asked me to consult to my teacher, she was a psychologist in the wide of education and student development in my senior high school. She was very expert in psychology consultation.
So, according to that advisement, I was daring myself to share my problem to her. Then, when I was feeling comfortable, I increased my chance to read some kinds of personality and motivation books. So I can try to have and get the positive mind from environment. I try to join and open mind to all of people around me. I didn’t cover myself again and not hiding myself from the world. Finally, time by time I found the answer of that big questions which I have explained before. I started to plan my dream, I start to be a positive woman and walk through the life. I found my deep soul, and I can stand with people because I have understood that we was born is not for hiding from the world but we was born is to face the world by the way we are.
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