According to Asta (2019), insecure or insecurity means an act of emotion when we judge ourselves to be inferior to others. My own personal opinion states that insecure can be interpreted as a feeling of insecurity that everyone may feel in their life. Feelings of insecurity can happen to you when you feel deprived, ashamed, guilty, and not being able to do something. When this feeling of insecurity controls you, it will trigger feelings of increasingly insecure that exist in yourself.
One of the strong reasons why people feel insecure or unconfident is that they underestimate themselves and don't believe with their abilities. When someone feels insecure whether it's because of skin color, height and weight, or face shape is not as desired, then they will not being confidence.
Basically, insecurity is a natural thing. But of course, this feeling can be a big problem if you feel it drags on. By building your self-worth, it can be overcome your insecurity. Although not instantaneously, this method can change how you feel and accept yourself. Here are 5 tips how to stop being insecure :
1. Change your perspectiveÂ
Sometimes all you have to do is change the way you look at your life. Change the way you look at your insecurities. You can't just sit and think about it. Say you're insecure about your short body because in school, all your friends say that you are a dwarf. That is a common insecurity that women have.
For example, you might write:Â "I'm insecure about my body and I tend to hide them because I'm afraid to show them to the world."
You have to write a new belief: "I love my body because my body is strong and I'm capable of walking and running and doing all of these amazing things with my body."
2. Become aware of your insecurities
You can't just knock out all your insecurities in life at once. It really is one at a time. Look at your insecurities, and this is not always easy. You've got to face your insecurities, cry if you have to! don't just avoid it.
Most people just push down their insecurities because they're too afraid to feel it. They don't want to feel that sadness, all of that. So be brave enough to feel it, to face it, and analyze it.
3. Stop comparing yourself to other people.
You have to change your mindset and see that it's not a competition, it's about community. We are here on this earth to work together in community. You're not in competition with all the girls you see on Instagram. You're not trying to be better than other people.
There is no way that you can be better than other people because everyone's story is different. Each person has their own life experience, their own strengths, their own stories. There's no way you can compare one person with the person next to each other.
4. Find your strengths and uniquenessÂ
It will be more beneficial to try to uncover your talents and strengths rather than focusing just on comparing yourself to others, because your strengths and uniqueness may have a high value and be useful to you in the future.
5. Stay consciously aware of your mind
Stay aware and just catch yourself whenever you notice yourself having an insecure or negative thought, or when you catch yourself comparing yourself to other people, because you know those things hurt you. You want to program your mind to only think thoughts that help you and support you in your life.
You are in control of your mind, you don't want to let your mind control you because most people let their mind and thoughts control them. But know that you can take the power back.
Overcoming insecurity is not something that can be accomplished juat one night. Don't become discouraged if your small changes haven't worked. Everything has to go through a process, and things will improve as you attempt new things. If the insecurity that you feel doesn't go away, consult this with a therapist to find out what else might be causing it.
