Inside The (Crazy) Quarter Life Crisis

Cogito, ergo sum. I am thinking, therefore, I exist. Some people might currently find momentum in life when days are often filled with a lot of questions about life. Quarter life crisis is widely known as the period when young adults in their twenties to early thirties reveal their real life transition into adulthood demand and responsibility. 

Beyond growing, this is the time when most people enter their career and relationship stages. Every transition means adaptation, and it leads us to the complex situations which mostly arise at the same time. To know that this is just a phase of life, here are some signals that might happen to some people.

At first, mental draining and psychological challenges come as the daily guest. This might happen because of confusion and unreadiness to face the real challenge.  It turns into a cycle of anxiety, overthinking, desperation, and stress. In some cases, the situation is getting worse due to the external demand. For example, the transition after graduating from college and becoming a job seeker is so tough. You can now imagine that your rival is not only your classmates. They are all guys out there, and they are unlimited, either newcomers or highly experienced.

 Even after getting the first job, it might not always directly fulfill your expectations. This is the world of "dilema", an inner battle fight in you. Therefore, it becomes the confusing time of dream catching or becoming realistic because you realize that life must go on with sets of invoice billing that must be paid everyday. Not only career and social challenge, the problem seemingly expands to the relationship stages when you see that everyone starts to seek their deep love relationship. Those realities have very big impact on triggering mental unsteadiness.

Next, comparison is hell.
Like it or not, either ready or not, challenges and problems will come greeting us. They are part of our daily routine who will patiently come everyday. Hence, they are part of life's  learning curriculum in this universe. The "sucks" days while seeing others' life on Instagram or Tiktok might seem so contrast. 

However, please stop comparing yourself to others because it is a terrible and torturing act. One will never find the magic of acceptance if they keep comparing their progress to the success of others. Tragically, what we actually do is just being unfair to ourselves for all the struggles we have passed  to stand this far.

Rearrange Planning.
Unreadiness to meet reality is usually caused by wide expectations. We may already prepare ourselves very well but life apparently chooses its own track. This is the mindfulness point when we sometimes forget that the world is actually set into something manageable, and fot the rest of it is consisted of many more things beyond our control. This is the reason that makes it crucial to decide the balance between ego and reality, while we reflect on ourselves to know it is the right time to run faster or contrary to just stand and stop.