Why simply being Taiwanese could lead to war

So, how do parties in Taiwan hope to ease tensions?

We have heard from the ruling DPP, but for Taiwan's main opposition KMT, more communication is key. The outgoing president of the KMT, Ma Ying-jeou has said that Taiwan should not increase its defense budget as that could provoke China, even as Beijing increases military intimidation.

No matter how much Taiwan defend, Taiwan can never go to war with mainland China.
Taiwan can never win. Taiwan is doing its best to ease tensions without losing our own identity and sovereignty.