Being a single mother isn’t a matter after all
Women are still as seen as a side, a mute, and a minority in the social stigma that given by the social groups. In some societies, a woman just will be ‘a woman’ who will end up in around that called as ‘home’, which the realism of women seems like doing what the household did essentially.
Nevertheless, exactly what women can do beyond the expected of that reality, their privileged as human beings who preserve more than usual man is intriguing. It’s a sacred chore, an extraordinary charge that men cannot sphere.
Furthermore, they pretty much needed the women's presence. Through celebrating International Women’s Day, I belonging of women would tell the world that we can deserve better than we thought only as common of ‘a woman’ in society greatly further than – especially in the case from that women, there is a group of women who deserve superfluous, they are called as single mothers.
Although, we knew that being a single mother is not their choice but a situation where forced them. Here, between sparks of this stigma for women who deserve by their own – the stereotype of a human being who lives in the odd perspective of society put the single mother among the negative intention. But, through this writing, I would like to share an impression – why being a single mother isn’t matter at all.
However, some perspectives looked at women as the most vulnerable creature, as regarding Koch and Fulton that “the expectation of women as weak, concern on the gender stereotypes” (2011).
Despite, a woman sincerely can hold back millions of senses seems like a single mother who has the capability to sustain great tasks from the weary and pain of the prenatal phase, then, in delivering a new life who had full of a fated destiny.
Nonetheless, the hefty bond in raising that new life being the best of a human being. A dazzling moment that men cannot do, even if ‘Daddies’ could take a mother figure but it’s a little bit tricky caused a daddy cannot be altered with the motherly instinct.
Like men more want to be dominant and had selfishness, those are the natural characteristics since they were born and it is quite hard to harmonize what children wish.
Otherwise in some cases ‘Mommies’ could have done with it, transformed into a father figure for their child. They are exceedingly multi-tasking, it supposed like they can do everything. Is it right? –
Moreover, a number of journals said that a group of single mothers is triggered by stress easily but – isn’t it also emphasized and increased in their responsibility.
Then, it means that being a single mother isn’t a matter at all. Through this site, we can see that how much power they are as a single mother – afterward, it more precisely develop their personal growth.
Inline, the single mothers are able to be daddy figures particularly for their child, the one – through taking over the chore of head family, fathers in earning money.
Across this way, it broken down the perspective of single mothers does nothing to admit – a single mother can be equivalent and she had an acquaintance in the society.
The authorities generate and spark their spirits to become more open-minded, set aside to the single mother welfare. Many of them want to achieve their dream, meant to be to become the finest figure for their kids at least the good role modeling they accomplished the good jobs, – by that widely a group of single mothers attempt to have a standard of education that they should acquire.
Although it depending more on the family welfare of each individual's single mother – such as the poverty of the single mother family which affected a lot on this outcome and the individual positivity. But, most of them still have a desire to ensure it. It means that poverty isn’t locked their deep ambition, and being independent is the greatest thing that they ever meant to be.
As we know, recently, women’s representation was seen in almost all of the whole aspects of men’s substances. Even though, it has always been debating space amid the entire either in society, culture, or religion – the activist of women’s emancipation was begun upon the centuries back for instance in Indonesia there is R. A. Kartini, Dewi Sartika, Cut Nyak Dien, and etc, and also the others wonderful women in the entire of the world in fight their rights.
Those figures were the initiator of gender equality to be getting louder and more powerful glint, women possibly will do what want to be after being open-minded in person. Later, by exposing the women's existence we had enormous opportunities to challenging ourselves as women alike the single mothers if we have to take our first step – we will make a bigger outcome rather than just saying in silent ways. Alongside those standpoints, being a single mother isn’t a mistake –indeed she has a big impact in grinding the stereotype.
So, besides changing their selves to being more powerful personally, being a single mother also changing the stereotype of society's perception. In another hand, we realized that, whether a woman or a single mother surviving in this kind of environment is not easy after all. They shall be fragile as easy as pie particularly in pointed down their physically or mentally. Acknowledged this condition, it always been contrary aside in between the social gap between the men and women.
Among you and me or we are should support psychologically to raise single motherhood to fit in their confidence – next diminish their insecurities because being a single mother isn’t a criminal status. Indeed it is absolutely holy pleasant to be farther tough. Then, tell them that “Mom, you’re the one and only, our first – chore – greatest we truly concern and we want to be pleased extremely.”
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Panca Agustina
Djambi, March 14th, 2021.
