The cost of buying a house too now is far much more expensive than your dad, grand-dad, great-grand-dad have to pay. There are not much land left around the city area, and thus the price goes high. It is not time-relevant anymore when your dad suggests you to buy a house before getting married. If you are following all things you got to have, when will you think you’d be ready? If you are following this rule, man would only be ready to get married by around his 35-40 at the earliest. While girls, on the other hand, will still do the same given that we don’t have to carry the checklist you are given. So we’ll marry older guys now. Shall we?
And do not start to talk about the nature role or kodrat of men and women. Most of you guys, are not handy anymore around the house with tools, right? There is even more male chef than female chef in professional kitchens. Ups, sorry I become too harsh in speaking.
The Partnership
I truly feel sad for the situation that most guys are having at the moment. Isn’t it unfair for you that women now have all the access and facilities you are having but given less burden in this term of responsibilities? We are not obliged to buy a house, or have a good salary. It is all on you.
I do believe that we are now in a term for a real partnership. Men and women are now together not because the men should cover all the girls’ need, because our income can cover our own needs. But the bonding happens because we are in the need of companion and partnership to share what we have and to complete each other.
If you are asking, what if the men have lower salary than you? I’ll say what’s the problem? It is not era anymore to feel heroic and bigger just by having the ability to pay for things. When you are doing what you like the most, having an income and able to carry yourself independently and still have the willingness to share with your partner, that’s sexy and heroic.
You might say that not all girls share the same opinion and way of thinking with me. But still, all girl would be happier to compromise and help you achieving your checklist together in partnership instead of being left alone to start over with another strangers.
Take the risk – NEKAD!
If you want to be use your logic, what you need is a supportive partner to achieve the checklist. If you have found someone right, but you are not in the right time of having all list complete, ask her to compromise, to stay or to lower her ideal dream of marriage, so you can still be together. Don’t you think it is more logical to keep what is right, rather than to let something go, for something that is not certain too?
Another thing that I want to bring up to all men and women is to take the risk. Be NEKAD. This nekad quality has lost from our vein because we are trained to secure ourselves. But taking the risk in the case of building life together is necessary.
Be nekad and brave to move forward, and take the step. As a wise-man says, things are impossible until its complete.
