The uniqueness of the traditional Batak wedding
Magodang anak, pangolihononhon, magodang boru pahutaon (pamulion)"
Meaning: If the son is an adult, he will find a wife (in marriage) and when the daughter is an adult she should have a husband (live in her husband's village).
The Batak community, including in big cities, including Jakarta, still holds strong cultural values. Starting from the kinship system, to customs (including ruhut paradaton in traditional events ranging from babies, children, adolescents, marriage and death) are still maintained in everyday life. Here, Weddingku describes the sequence of wedding customs in Batak society, especially the Toba Batak, which are commonly used, especially in Jakarta and several big cities in Indonesia, ranging from patiur baba ni nausea (please pray for blessings) to marunjuk (wedding parties).
A. PATIUR BABA NI Nausea (excuse me and ask for Bone's blessing)
This procession is the first step taken by parents to the hula-hula (the clan group from which the wife comes from) before her son gets married. According to custom, the daughter of the bone (a male sibling from the mother's side) is the son's first mate. If the chosen life partner is not a bone daughter, then the parents need to take their son and ask for bone's blessing. This custom is only performed on the first son to be married.
B. MARHORI-HORI WALL (closed family introduction)
A few months before the wedding, the family of the man (paranak/pangoli) visits the family of the woman (parboru/oroan) with the intention of introducing themselves and setting a date and day for the proposal. Marhori-hori dingding is only done by the nuclear family, because according to its meaning (marhori = communicate, dingding = wall) this meeting is held intimately and privately. The treats that are brought are simply cakes or fruit.
C. MARHUSIP (tacit negotiations) & PATUA HATA (formally apply):
Some time later, based on the results of the wall hori-hori discussion, a more formal discussion was held between close families (not involving the outside community). Both the paranak and parboru were accompanied by their respective traditional kings. The paranak came to the parboru family's place with sipanganon (food & drink). At this event, the paranak offered sipanganon tudu (food in the form of a lobu/pork or buffalo head) and the parboru gave dengke (carp).
Marhusip events are usually directly coupled with an official application ceremony led by traditional kings. This event is called patua hata which literally means increasing the level of agreement which no longer only involves two young couples but has increased to the level of agreement between parents.
In this event discussed in detail the customs that will be implemented. Among others:
- Marhata sinamot (negotiating dowry / dowry)
