The Alone Journey on Self Coaching

We are born alone, and so does life. Age by age, life is completed with the lessons of coming and going, welcoming people in, and letting them go. Furthermore, every phase in life has its certain people, and every person in our life has their specific period of time. It is the basic reason why everybody is replaceable depending on the episode of life. However, the one and only survival is ourselves. 

We rarely realize that life is a journey of trial and error which at the end was faced alone. None of the people in this universe might understand us 100 percent. Some people were given the privilege of a supporting circle. They have a safe zone from all troubles, demands, and challenges. Unlikely, many of us have very limited good vibes that might not always be available to reach. This is the essence of self coaching, independence. So, first thing first, stop begging, stop demanding, and stop being dependent because everyone has their own troubles and struggles. Adulthood proves that the circle will get smaller with less people coming around. However, relying ourselves and happiness on others is poisoning our own mental health.

The second fundamental line of self coaching is empathy. We deserved empathy and support. Those are the primary mental needs to be fulfilled, especially the empathy and grace coming from the inner self.  Stop mocking, because you've been standing still this far, struggling and presenting your best. 

The third principal of self coaching is how to deal with expectation. As part of life growth, There will be a big gap between achieving dreams and living in reality. There are too many uncontrollable factors coming from the outside. This is the time when expectation and regrets greet you so often. However, two key points to deal with expectation are the ability to adjust, and the ability to redirect focus on the efforts rather than the results. Last but not least, there is no a real successful change unless it comes from the consistency of self-coaching, self-directing, and self-care, because the change on us is exactly right in hand.