"Household Problematics And Its Solution"

By. Purwalodra

In married life, we often find differences of opinion, between husband, wife, even with our children. This is the starting point for a commotion in the household. If both parties, both husband and wife, maintain their own egos, then in the end it is predictable what will happen. Though the purpose of married life is noble, great and noble. That is a quiet and loving life (mawadah warahmah).

Actually the key to resolving the issue of dissent is religion, religion will provide instructions to resolve the issue. Many people claim to be religious, diligent in worship but lack knowledge of religion, for example people are diligent in reading the holy book of the Koran but do not know what is read, because they are not diligent in reading the meaning, let alone the purpose of the contents of the verses that are read.

The scriptures that are used as the basis of life, should not only be read but must know the meaning, let alone the purpose of the content of the verse that is read. 

For example, that the solution to resolve differences of opinion in QS Al Baqarah verse 30, explains the difference of opinion between Allah and his creatures, when Allah said that he would make a creature that would be used as a kholifah on earth named man (adam), a creature called an angel and the devil is against it. They feel more entitled to assume the caliph on the face of the earth, but Allah decreed adam as caliph.

Returning to the above topic, as well as differences of opinion in the household between husband and wife should follow the path of angels, they should submit themselves. 

Husband and his status as a priest for his wife so when the husband has decided something, then the wife's obligation is to obey the husband. Let us examine the behavior in prayer in congregation, when the priest is ruku then the congregation also joins, the prostration priest then the maximum prostration, that is a picture of married life. God willing, this is a solution to resolve differences of opinion in the household. May be useful !.

Bekasi, August 18, 2019.