Mind The Talk, Talk The Mind

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Have you ever in a conversation, and was or is somehow felt this talk is useless? In your chat group, you would prefer to be a good silent reader when the humdrum just heats up. Or else, you choose yourself to jump in the chat and face and discuss whatever topic coming. And somehow, you pose yourself to be Mr. Know-All. Both face-to-face conversation or ordinary group chat in your phone, few prefer to be silent and few are resilient. Whatever side you choose, you can mind the talk or talk the mind.

Mind the talk, in the surface, would seem to show ignorance toward many things discussed. Few show concern as well. Being ignorant does not mean you do not care. It's just simply what being argued just things you know best. Whether it is best to be forgotten or best just trivial talk unnoticed. As you somehow know what is disputed and rumored just being so important in the chat, not in the real world. Or the talks just simply triggered hatred and dislike toward someone. Unfortunately, the talk happens to be grunting hoax.

Talk the mind is exposing yourself to be actively engage in a chat. Whether it is simply talking pomposity of someone or things or heavier discourse, you seem to draw yourself deeper in the conversation. You really talk or express what is your concern toward the problem. Though solutions may yield another problems, you just keep hoarding the discussion till your wits end, probably. The talk just disturbs your mind and would somehow things should be kept in order. Though criticism were give and brag-abouts are around, you keep on chatting. And few somehow, could offense implicitly or explicitly toward you or others in the group chat. 

Face-to-Face or Face-to-Screen

An encouraging or discouraging talk or discussion could happen. Either in a more natural setting such as face-to-face interaction or a gadget-aided chat or face-to screen, the individuals act accordingly in the setting. In a more direct face-to-face talk, all the elements in speaking involve. Your gestures, facial expression and eye contact deliver meaning. A relaxed shoulder from your colleague simply means interest to continue chatting. A slight bored face from your friend after a long hour of working, poses bad time to have conversation. Or deliberate losing eye contact from your discussing partner would address a halt in the discussion. Everything happen in a face-to-face is far from bold and honest. Both in a much hierarchical talk between you and your boss and leisure chit-chat with your friends, natural setting talk is far from pretense. 

While in face-to-screen chat, almost anything could happen. Few people feel comfortable to be anonymous in Facebook or blog. Anonymity is anyone's right, but in a talk this could hinders certain clarity. Or it could rise doubt. You don't really know if the things you discussed come from a reliable source person. He or she could simply tells lies. Latent intention of spurring hate or disseminate hoax, could oaccur. A Whatsapp chat could be detrimental if many would perceive themselve righteous. A regular chat about recent news of rise of price could end in marginalizing someone, in other word kicking-out from the group. A chat group is dominated by those who have the same interest. Any disruption of the wellfareness of the group, should be eradicated, ASAP. Or, criticism should meet a standard that the group have conventionally made. All is based on the merit of prominent figures in the group.

Both mind the talk or talk the mind play their roles in both settings. As somehow in natural setting, few people are good in hiding their feeling. They become so good, that you are not able to decide whether he or she agrees to what you say. But of course, in a unnatural setting, group chatting brings more unpredictability than it looks like to be. Saying OK or typing 'a thumb' does not mean merely you comply. It can mean everything from just to be polite to preserve concensus. You could mind the talk and keep being a good silent reader. Or, you could talk the mind if you have many things to say.

In the end, mind the talk could push you to end your presence. You rather leave or hide the conversation of a group in your smartphone. Since leaving the group intentionally is considered rude, the last option is asking the group administrator to remove you from the group. In natural setting, you could show your disinterest or slight gesture to end the conversation. While talk the mind end purpose is of course dominating the discussion. Being a high-profile in the group and to happen know everything are to be seen by those who talk the mind. Though good things also come from those who talk the mind, but few are frivolous. 

It's our decision to mind the talk or talk the mind in a discussion. Because sometimes, those who speak the least have the biggest way of doing what they know.

Regards,