Manhood Is Not About 'Inches' Inside Your Pants, It's The Spaces Between Your Ears

[caption id="" align="aligncenter" width="428" caption="(ilustrasi: justwitit.wordpress.com)"][/caption] Manhood, a term most likely defined as the superiority of male. The dominant male culture, or patriarchy is preserved and nurtured in Indonesia. Male, for sure, are attracting and also convincing their opposite sex by their masculinity. This would relate to how strong male are. It would also how well male's don are. Even, it would also suggest the 'inches' inside a man's pants. And implicitly, how prosperous should a man ought to be. Thus, female would kneel down and succumbed to male's manhood. But is it so? Manhood has its own preferable and wiser definition. Manhood, and of course masculinity, suggest the wisdom between the spaces between male's ear. It is the way male think upon the gender inequality and how male should respect women that matter. Manhood it's a stage in a male's life that insist him to carefully think and act. It is a pivotal stage of a male's life whether he could be called a man or child growing up. A male has a manhood element if he can think not as a child growing up. He should stand on his own and wise. Though in common, manhood is a concept which anything a male does upon a female is excusable. And this would also true to most cultures in the world. Male are above female in anyway. Though emancipation would be the a strong basis as counter-culture understanding. But the nurtured nature of manhood is kept well through generation. Children, both boys and girls should be aware of such 'stratum' of society in their early age. It preoccupies the later understanding of women's role in emancipation. It makes a certain shade of emancipation understanding. Excuses of male's mistake can be take for granted. Let me give you a-not-very preferable example, a raping. Rape is the evilest act a male could do over female. Commonly, the victim of rape, the female, is both ways guilty and innocent. In patriarchy culture as ours, the subtle stigma of female of also been the guilty party. The female is considered as the party addressing herself to be raped. By dressing sexy and arousing male's desire, raping is seen as not male's guilt. But also as female's misfit to deliberately or not addressing herself to be raped. Therefore, it creates a certain nuance that raping is excusable for male. It renders common subtle understanding that the act of raping come from both side of parties. An immense shade of patriarchy above emancipation would therefore define manhood as physically and sexually above feminine. Unfortunately, this is nurtured and taught indirectly since childhood. But, this 'mundane' understanding could be deviated along the way to manhood. It is education and parents' role should make way to wiser understanding of manhood. Parents should give firmer understanding for boys to respect and maintain a well interaction between opposite sex. Manhood should be understood as the way of interaction not as the basis to excuse to be superior. School and parents should disseminate a much more intellectual understanding of manhood. It should be the way male to treat and respect on female on their daily basis. Bullying on school or even sexual harassment outside school on female can be defied. Such actions should give male a deeper thought before he do the wrong-doing. The bad consequences  are the greatest burden to be thought of by male. The spaces between male's ears should be the shield or protector of such malevolence. Firmer and wiser understanding of manhood is therefore should be learned. School and parents are therefore should explain this on extensively. Not only by saying, but also as role models for boys. My article about gender and feminism you may also like. Jilbab-Hijab, Siska Yofie and Condom Regards, Solo, April 21 2014 12:02 pm