Our Present Self vs Childhood Trauma

The childhood that we had in the past has a big impact for our future. According to Chaplin (2001) trauma is a wound both physical, physical, and psychological. Childhood trauma is a condition where the brain is still experiencing hard situation and condition that occurred in childhood, making it difficult for people who has that condition as an adult because the situations and conditions they experienced when they were young limited the way their brains work. It happened because of several causes and left several effects.

First, some of the common causes of childhood trauma are domestic violence and physical abuse that occured at a young age. Feelings of insecurity, shame, fear, guilt are not easily removed as they grow up as an adult. At that time the child suffered because the environment did not support the stimulation of brain development. The attention, care, and good response that mostly come from the adults around the children as their golden age are the key in the development of a children's brains in order they can react, think, and work as a normal adult in the future.

Second, when the feelings and wounds that created at a young age are carried into adulthood, the brain which has adapted to deal with the threatening situations they faced in the past thinking too much about the nature or behavior of people around them. They overreact to the environment around them negatively because their brain sees the environment as a threat. It's hard to adult people who has this condition to see the positivity around them. Even trust or open up themselves to the new environment is as hard as keeping relationship to people that already walked in in their life.

Third, feelings of insecurity, anxiety, fear, inappropriateness, and complacency eventually become a part of themselves as an adult. The lack of support makes it difficult to trust new people or even maintain trust with people who are already in our lives. Difficult to build and maintain relationships in the environment and society which is called by social thinning. This condition can get worse as the time passed because as we know human is a social creature who needs interact to other for living.

In the end, everything that happened did not mean the end of the story of life. Support, care, and love can always be obtained. Believe me, there are always good and righteous people in this world. Learn to trust someone, share feelings, and accept the support and advice of others. Even in very apprehensive conditions, there are many people who are professionals in their fields whose job is to help. In essence, what we face in childhood greatly affects us in the future. However, that does not mean we have to live in endless suffering. Being open with people you trust can be a great start to getting better.