Some people are very friendly. These kinds of people are nice to talk with. Mostly, they're very polite and have good manners. No wonder that most people like to make friends with them. Vice versa, they also like to make them with us. But, deep in my mind, I always keep asking myself whether we actually need more and more people to become our friends. Isn't there any limit for that? Should we make all good people to become our friends? Is it possible?
Having many friends tends to be considered as a good option. It's a natural fact that as human we can live alone. There're times that we need somebody to help us. Helping people is a good manner as well as a good deed seen by all religions. In Buddhisme, if we do good things then the good will come back to you unexpectedly sooner or later. Yes, it's called karma effect. Well, let's not talk religion too much. It's very personal and private.
How many friends do you have? I'm sure we never count it. As a matter of fact, friends come and go, right? We broke up with our childhood friends, for example --due to many situations-- but, in the same time we have new friends when we grow up. I think it's impossible to have the same friends all the time. Anyway, do you believe in true friend? Well... I don't. I just believe in myself. The only best friend is actually yourself. Relax... it's OK if we have different opinion.
How about online friends? Nowadays, people seem to have more online friends than the offline ones. Is it normal to you? Does it sound good or bad in terms of sociology? Can online friends become real good friends for us? Or they're only "fake friends"? Don't get me wrong. I didn't mean to make false assumption toward somebody or something. As we know, we never met online friends directly face-to-face, right? So,I guess we still need to be careful in making friends, especially the online ones.
I'm sure all of us have experienced bad things when we're doing internet or social media. As we know, there're many hoax, cyber bullies, and bad information on internet. Certainly, there're also many good things from internet. Some people on internet are good in making posts or comments, while others are "bad news" people. Many observers say that bad posts and comments --including cyber bully-- are actually coming from coward people. Don't take their words personally. Just ignore them or block their names. Basically, they're just jealous of other people success or achievement which they aren't.
OK, back to the question above: having many friends or just few friends? Well... it's not easy to answer because how we indicate the word of 'many' in number? Is 20 big or small number to you? How about 50 and 100? The friend acceptance in facebook is limited to only 5000 people. Is it big enough for you? For me, it's a huge number for I have only less than 850 facebook friends now. I'm not in hurry to make more friends because I realize people have different characters. I just don't trust people easily. So, how many friends should we have? It's up to you. Believing in yourself doesn't mean we don't like making friends. We just like to be careful in anything... and it's certainly a very wise act.