Fadly HA, Fauziah AF, Hanifah SM, I Azkya.
Student majoring in Arabic Language and Literature, Faculty of Adab and Humanities, State Islamic University Sunan Gunung Djati, Bandung, Indonesia. Desember, 16 2022.
Introvert and extrovert may be familiar terms nowadays. The two words are opposite personalities, where an extrovert is a personality who enjoys socializing and interacting with other people. Meanwhile, people with introverted personalities prefer spending time alone.
Introverts are known as people who are shy, quiet, ignorant, arrogant, don't want to get along, etc. But actually, introverts are not what you think they are; they are just thinking about what they are saying before they say it to you. This personality prefers to interact with one person or two people, compared to a group of people; maybe if they are in a group of people, introverts will feel uncomfortable and it will drain their energy.
They will have more potential if they are in their environment or indoors, such as reading or writing, compared to doing activities outside there. Introvert personalities are also known as people who are serious at work; they can carry out their activities or work by themselves without the help of others, which is different from extroverts, who will find it easier if their work is assisted by other people or discussed.
Even so, introverts can actually be very caring people; they can even become loyal listeners.
Why is starting a relationship important for an introvert?
As we know, it is very difficult for an introvert to get along in a large group; more precisely, it is difficult to enjoy gathering and having fun chatting in one room where there are many people in the room, even though he knows these people. However, the introvert is still hesitant to begin and attract the attention of others in his chats. why? because introverts worry too much about saying the right word for conversation in that situation, are too afraid if what they are talking about is wrong, are afraid of receiving other people's feedback, and are afraid of not being able to accept it if other people don't think or agree with them. It is those fears that have been rooted in the introverted mindset—events that actually may not necessarily happen—that, by thinking like that for a long time, can become embedded in the brain, and we think that things will happen or will definitely happen. Even though some introverts don't accept the fact that other people's judgments of us are none of our business, it's not up to us to decide. Everyone has a different way of thinking, and our right is to say what we think regardless of what other people think. It could be that our opinion can help other people solve a problem, but because we are too selfish and think too negatively, that will not happen. And by writing this article, we, who are also introverts, want to help those of you who are currently still confused, take it for granted, or look down on introverts. We are great; we just need to be more extreme than usual to make people around us realize how great the potential is in us. not to be someone else, but we are trying not to stay put but to move forward to open up our talents that have been hidden so far. and also make introverts aware that having lots of friends and broad relationships is very pleasant, will ease our path in future careers, and will be useful if we are far from family. even though it doesn't look like it at the moment, but rest assured it will happen. Try to think positively from now on, slowly, and try to open up to your friends, because that way other people will feel valued and that you think of them as good friends.
Based on the book Quiet Impact: It Doesn't Matter to Be an Introvert by Sylivia Loehken, here we will summarize as briefly as possible the important points for an introvert to start a relationship with other people.
1. Step out of your comfort zone
As we all know, communicating with new people is a difficult decision for a quiet person.Why is it important? Because there must be times when unexpected events occur.We are also required to get out of our comfort zone, not to be someone else but to become a better version of ourselves.