Getting back to the buying house issue. I could see that men wanting to be 'bigger' than women as an act of love, that they know from growing up in certain culture. In this stage, i feel a little bit sorry for the men that they have so much burden on their shoulders. And to us, not buying a house can also be categorized as way of making our male partner more comfortable of being who they are.Â
Conflicting feelings
Don't throw me with stones yet. I have already threw some stones already into my face before saying it. But if this would make my good partner feeling less emasculated and could be more loving, i would be willing to postpone getting a house until we get the best positive vibes of sharing the economic burden. My colleagues told me that actually life makes it easier for women to enjoy the things in life. But well, postponing something to make someone else feeling better of themselves is not an easy task to do.
I wonder when we can completely reach the era  when men and women can be freed from any prejudice and social stigma? I can hear some people would say that I should find someone who will accept us for who we are, not less. Well i say, isn't it too narcissistic? I might be too strong on this, but I come into a stage where I dont have that much of optimism of having a movie-like ending. Life is a form of compromising and full of options. And this piece is just another way of looking into an issue.
So am i getting a house? Maybe yes, maybe no.